Difference Between Love and Infatuation

It can be sometimes be difficult to tell the difference between infatuation and love. This is especially true at the beginning of a relationship. It is easy to think that you have found true love as the intensity of infatuation takes over your life. Love, however, rarely comes on suddenly. It is a slow, gradual process that can only happen after the rush of infatuation starts to ebb.

Infatuation describes the intense range of feelings present at the beginning of most relationships; sweaty palms, rapidly beating heart, butterflies in the stomach. The world is a better, more beautiful place because object of your affection is with you. Every time you touch is thrilling, you remember every conversation, and your thoughts revolve around them. In more common terms, this is a crush. Crushes are a very real, normal part of human life. Everyone experiences at least one crush at some point or another in their lives.
Infatuation is caused by a chemical reaction in the body. The harmons released accounts for some of the feelings of elation. In truth, you are "high" on "dopamine" . This is an important evolutionary response to meeting a potential future mate. These hormones assure that two people will spend enough time together to possibly produce children, thus ensuring the survival of the species.
Love, on the other hand, is a calmer, more mature feeling. It is a sense of stability. Love is still exciting, at times. It can change day-to-day. Love takes work. The feelings are not supported by the highs of hormones, but by a shared love and respect for each other. Love is what exists after infatuation fades, if you are lucky.
Infatuation and love are different in many ways. While both result in pleasant feelings, the feeling of infatuation is more intense than the feeling of love. Love may not be as intense, but it is usually a much deeper emotion. Relationships that start as infatuation can mature into love.
One of the biggest differences between infatuation and love is how long each can last for. Infatuation can last, at most, several months before it starts to fade. Love, on the other hand, is capable of lasting fifty years or more, if both people in the relationship work for it. Infatuation is almost effortless. Anything put into the relationship is because you want to. Everything you do for the other person brings great pleasure for you, too. This isn’t always the case in love. You do things that you don’t want to do, things that you will get no pleasure from, because it is the fair thing to do. Love is about compromise.
Infatuation and love are both different in the amount of unpleasant tension that is part of the relationship some days. Infatuation discourages any real disagreements from taking place. You both are on your best behavior during all the time you spend together. Anything that could cause a discrepancy to the idea of a perfect relationship is avoided. Everything is perfect, and no one wants to mess that up.
Love allows people to be who they really are. While arguments aren’t encouraged, they happen. Sometimes they happen a lot, especially in times of stress. Love is admitting that your partner has faults, and so do you, but that is okay. You have realistic expectations of each other. Love is accepting.
Infatuation and love are two separate emotions, and there are many differences between them. They are, however, similar in some ways. Infatuation is like a shiny new pair of dress shoes, where as love is the comfy old sneakers you’ve had for years. Infatuation is fun, while it lasts. Eventually, though, the night out ends, and you slip into the sneakers that fit perfectly, even if they are starting to give at the seams and the tread is worn out. This is what happens in relationships. As the brilliance of infatuation fades, couples move into a contented place where, even if there are problems, they know they can depend on one another to provide the love and support they need. That is the difference between infatuation and love.

India can become SUPERPOWER

People must be ambitious; they must have high desires. India is pretty strong on the first three requirements and that is why India can become a superpower. Indians are among the most intelligent people of the world.
India has an immense resource of experienced, high calibre professionals in all spheres of knowledge and technology. There is no goal that these professionals cannot achieve, if the right conditions are provided, because they are as good as anyone else in the developed countries.
The achievements of India and Indians worldwide in areas of space technology, nuclear technology, agricultural research, and software development gives a glimpse of what this sleeping tiger is capable of. India has economically and industrially advanced to a level from where further development can be much more accelerated.
India has immense capital that is lying dormant with individuals due to lack of awareness about investment instruments as well as trustworthy avenues for investments. Gold in the possession of individual families is an example as well a result of this situation.
The Indian market is very huge and it can support any degree of growth. The country has much more natural resources in comparison to many other developed countries. Considering these strengths, if India is ruled well with the right economic and social policies, India has all the potential to achieve a growth rate of 13% which would take the 1999 per capita income of $1600 to $34,000 by the year 2025, which would be equal to the UK per capita income in 2025, assuming that the 1999 UK per capita income of $22,000 grows at 2%. This 2% growth rate is considered to be a realistic long-term growth rate for a developed country like UK. Empires rise and fall.
The British Empire where the sun never set does not exist any more. The mighty USSR has disappeared. There is no historical reason to believe that the richest and the strongest nations of today will remain like that forever.
India and China are poised to take those positions. Why India has not achieved the goal yet and what will prevent India from achieving this goal in future? We focus too much on social and religious matters and too little on economic matters. Non-economic issues like temple-mosque disputes determine the outcome of national elections in India. This trend is now changing and focus is turning to economy and that is why India has good prospects to develop economically. As a result leaders who focus on economy and the country rather than religious and social issues will rise.
The ascension of Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam and Manmohan Singh as President and Prime Minister is a clear indication of this welcome phenomenon. I would define developed country status as follows. Over 90% of the population will be living in modern houses having toilet, electricity, pipe water, fans, cooking gas, television, telephone, and a fridge. More than 50% of the population will have a family car. The roads will be of international standards. Buses and trains will be neat and fast, keeping time. Electricity will not fail and telephones will work always. Towns and cities will be clean. People will get good and affordable education and healthcare. Taxes will be reasonable and prices affordable and stable. You will not have to bribe any one. To achieve all this in a short span of 15-20 years, in a predominantly rural economy like India, agricultural produces should fetch much higher prices, similar to industrial products. Therefore farmers will be able to pay high wages to agricultural labour, thus elevating the masses of India to a higher economic standing. The increased buying power of the rural sector will boost the industrial and urban sector, thus setting off a chain reaction of economic development, catapulting India to superpower status.

50 things which can make u happy

1. Giving and receiving a hug

2. Listening to music
3. A hot shower
4. A goodnight's sleep
5. The first cup of coffee in the morning
6. Driving car
8. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Eating ice-cream on a hot summerday.
11. Good food
12. Walking the beach and feel the sand between your toes
13. Phones calls from your friends.
14. A bubble bath.
15. Someone rubbing your back
16. A good conversation.
17. No lines at the supermarket
18. Having happy thoughts.
19. Giggling.
20. Finding money in your coat from last winter.
21. Having someone tell you that you look good.
22. Listening to the waves going wild
23. A good morning kiss
24. Laughing at an inside joke
25. Watching the sunset/sunrise
26. Cool water on hot days
27. Watching the snow fall and shovel the snow from the driveway.
28. Friends.
29. Taking a walk in the autumn when the leaves are coloring.
30. Playing with kids
31. Cycling
32. Sweet dreams
.33. Hot chocolate after a winter wonderland walk.
34. Having someone play with your hair
.35. Hearing those 3 little words 'I Love You
'36. Buying gifts for your loved ones
37. Listening to a new CD.
38. Going to a concert.
39. Making eye contact.
40. Fresh linen on the bed.
41. Eating your favorite food
42. Facial, manicure, pedicure, massage.
43. Spending time with close friends.
44. Seeing smiles and hearing laughter from your friends
.45. Holding hands with someone you care about.
46. Running into an old friend
47. When u show care to your parents.
48. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a present.
49. Someone telling you he/she loves you.
50. Wake up in the morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.

Pyar me aisa kyun hota h ???

Throughout of our life we solve many problems and gets answers for many questions from life experience … But one question (“Problem” is a more relevant word. :) :) ) LOVE is still unsolved.

Is it a “Mental Reaction” or a “Chemical Locha” or attraction with opposite sex?

Anyways let me tell you a guy’s Love Stories [UNSUCCESFUL] from childhood to young age who was my friend. It’s in his words.

Part -1 [Age-13]

I was a sincere and studious guy. I never uttered a single word until it needed.

I used to stand backstage of each and every activity. Means you can call me as a total looser type boy.

I used to avoid relative’s marriages, functions and all stuffs [but there was no fault of me in that because as u know how boring is a marriage when u don’t have friends out there ...specially a gal friend].

But it was my one of mama’s (mom’s brother) marriage so had to go with mom (not because I had any gal friend there). I thought of taking part in all rituals specially I wanted to see what all a groom do after all one day even I have to get married (just a predication). I sat just by side of my mama and was seeing what all he do but one devil (may be he was my relative) came to me and said “beta yahan bacho ka koi kam nhi h jao jake bahar khelo” like he was doing all that work. That day I understood why people wants to show their importance. Anyways I couldn’t say anything to him because he was much older than me(agar uski beti ka rishta mere liye aaya to kabhi accept nahi karunga).

I had to came out from their but where I should go now. My sister was busy with her dolls and I hate those smelly dolls so sat on one chair on roof and was cursing all small gals who were playing with dolls and looking very happy with theirs silly dolls marriage. And one group of guys were staring at gals and commenting about them within their group. I murmured why these guys are happy even their acts making no sense …nonsense.

Suddenly my sister came to me with one gal who was elder than me (I didn’t know her age but her physique was looking that we have somewhat age difference) . My sis furiously said “Bhaiya ,She wants to say something to u ,she is cousin of Kalu(one of other disgusting relative) and she left . I was literally shocked , why she came to me ?,what she wannna say to me ? is anyone looking at me ? … blah blah.. so many questions banged my mind within a fraction of second. But I didn’t ask any question to her (obviously).

She said “hi I m sanjana I just wants to be ur friend”. My face got blanked. I saw in many films a boy used to say this dialogue to a gal but here everything is opposite. Now what I m supposed to say because that was my first encounter with any gal (obviously other than my sisters). I just said “OK” and started dreaming .I was dreaming that i m next Sachin Tendulkar (Not in Cricket field ..in personal life because Sachin’s wife is seven years older than him). Then she asked me so many questions and I answered all of them as a good Student . She stayed there for half an hour and that time I was on cloud nine.

I used to see movies so movies affect on me. I started thinking I m in love .I wanted to shout loudly but … She started talking very sweetly with me ….now I cant control my excitement . I went to a room and shouted a lot ( Exactly what a bowler do after getting a wicket ). And came within a moment but ..alas.. Where is she ??? I went to my sister to ask abt her but again she was busy with her silly dolls . then I went to Kalu to ask abt her and he replied “Wo to chali gayi”. I was lost like devdas and argued with him “Are yar aise kaise chali gayi” . Kalu’s reactions totally got changed .he looked at me angrily and said “What u mean ??” but I didn’t say a word and went to a corner .

She left without saying a single word . Why she broke my heart ??

Mama got married she got a nice wife but what I got … Nothing … I came to home after two days with a broken heart . and got busy in board exams … I forgot her within 1 month (It was Childhood’s love so didn’t affect me).

After 2 years I went to Kalus’s home to visit his mother and all those things again knocked my mind.

I decided that now I ll go to Sanjana and will purpose her seriously because I m not a child anymore.

I told the same to Kalu but he just smiled at me. He took me to her home . I was very happy but was totally destroyed after what I saw there .

“She was In sari sitting near his husband”

Dangers of college Life ... [Alcohol - Know your Limits]

For many young adults, going to college is the first time they will leave home and be responsible for themselves. Inexperience and the desire for independence can be a dangerous combination for young men and women suddenly finding no authority figure to set boundaries. In an environment alive with potential, it is easy to fall victim to the dangers of the college lifestyle ....

Students coming to college just out of high school are not able to drink alcohol legally, but that does not stop the party. The college party culture encourages excessive drinking and for young adults who have little experience with alcohol, many go beyond their limit.

A new social scene and close contact with peers provides many opportunities for new friendships and love interests. Living conditions and the party culture encourage sexual interaction, but inexperience and alcohol again combine with tragic consequences. Young women and men often lack the confidence and self-awareness that comes with experience. Miscommunication and social pressure can lead to coercion and unwanted sexual contact. Alcohol dulls the senses and the ability to make decisions. Women often have not learned to speak up for themselves and have unhealthy perceptions of how dating should be. Pressure from trusted male friends, even when alcohol or violence is involved, often is not interpreted as rape. Young men are often taught that they have to be persistent to get sex, and cultures of sexual coercion and violence reinforce that. Using alcohol to “score” is an acceptable practice in some peer groups.

How much alcohol is too much? There's no simple answer to this question. If you're going to drink alcohol, you need to learn how to make this judgment call. You can try to figure out your blood alcohol content, but that's just part of the story. What does it mean to "reach your limit"?Here's some common sense tips to keep in mind the next time you're out drinking and are wondering if it's time to quit-- or, in some cases, if you have a problem with alcohol addiction and abuse.

First of all, there's a thin line between losing your inhibitions and losing control of yourself, and that's the line you don't want to cross. Losing your inhibitions may cause you to engage in silly, loud, or unusually bold behavior. You may look back on these things in the morning and cringe, but there probably won't be any dire consequences (unless you die from embarrassment). However, when someone loses control of their behavior, that's when they can put themselves in danger or become a danger to others.

Second, there's a point when the lousy effects of alcohol outweigh the fun effects. If you feel good after four drinks, this doesn't mean you'll feel good after eight drinks, when you're puking and hungover and feel like you've been run over by a rhinoceros. More is not better. The number of drinks you can handle comfortably is different for everyone, of course, but that number may be lower for you than you think.

Another important point to consider: are you drinking as a part of an evening of fun with your friends, or are you having fun with your friends as a part of an evening of drinking? If you drink, it should be a part of your fun activity, not the fun activity itself. If drinking becomes the primary source of your entertainment on a regular basis, you may be drinking too much.

Finally, if you're out drinking and you think you might be at your limit, you probably are! And if your friends think you are at your limit, they are probably right. Remember, it's highly unlikely that tomorrow morning, you're going to regret that you didn't drink enough. It's much more likely that you're going to regret getting wasted. So know when to stop.