Pyar me aisa kyun hota h ???

Throughout of our life we solve many problems and gets answers for many questions from life experience … But one question (“Problem” is a more relevant word. :) :) ) LOVE is still unsolved.

Is it a “Mental Reaction” or a “Chemical Locha” or attraction with opposite sex?

Anyways let me tell you a guy’s Love Stories [UNSUCCESFUL] from childhood to young age who was my friend. It’s in his words.

Part -1 [Age-13]

I was a sincere and studious guy. I never uttered a single word until it needed.

I used to stand backstage of each and every activity. Means you can call me as a total looser type boy.

I used to avoid relative’s marriages, functions and all stuffs [but there was no fault of me in that because as u know how boring is a marriage when u don’t have friends out there ...specially a gal friend].

But it was my one of mama’s (mom’s brother) marriage so had to go with mom (not because I had any gal friend there). I thought of taking part in all rituals specially I wanted to see what all a groom do after all one day even I have to get married (just a predication). I sat just by side of my mama and was seeing what all he do but one devil (may be he was my relative) came to me and said “beta yahan bacho ka koi kam nhi h jao jake bahar khelo” like he was doing all that work. That day I understood why people wants to show their importance. Anyways I couldn’t say anything to him because he was much older than me(agar uski beti ka rishta mere liye aaya to kabhi accept nahi karunga).

I had to came out from their but where I should go now. My sister was busy with her dolls and I hate those smelly dolls so sat on one chair on roof and was cursing all small gals who were playing with dolls and looking very happy with theirs silly dolls marriage. And one group of guys were staring at gals and commenting about them within their group. I murmured why these guys are happy even their acts making no sense …nonsense.

Suddenly my sister came to me with one gal who was elder than me (I didn’t know her age but her physique was looking that we have somewhat age difference) . My sis furiously said “Bhaiya ,She wants to say something to u ,she is cousin of Kalu(one of other disgusting relative) and she left . I was literally shocked , why she came to me ?,what she wannna say to me ? is anyone looking at me ? … blah blah.. so many questions banged my mind within a fraction of second. But I didn’t ask any question to her (obviously).

She said “hi I m sanjana I just wants to be ur friend”. My face got blanked. I saw in many films a boy used to say this dialogue to a gal but here everything is opposite. Now what I m supposed to say because that was my first encounter with any gal (obviously other than my sisters). I just said “OK” and started dreaming .I was dreaming that i m next Sachin Tendulkar (Not in Cricket field ..in personal life because Sachin’s wife is seven years older than him). Then she asked me so many questions and I answered all of them as a good Student . She stayed there for half an hour and that time I was on cloud nine.

I used to see movies so movies affect on me. I started thinking I m in love .I wanted to shout loudly but … She started talking very sweetly with me ….now I cant control my excitement . I went to a room and shouted a lot ( Exactly what a bowler do after getting a wicket ). And came within a moment but ..alas.. Where is she ??? I went to my sister to ask abt her but again she was busy with her silly dolls . then I went to Kalu to ask abt her and he replied “Wo to chali gayi”. I was lost like devdas and argued with him “Are yar aise kaise chali gayi” . Kalu’s reactions totally got changed .he looked at me angrily and said “What u mean ??” but I didn’t say a word and went to a corner .

She left without saying a single word . Why she broke my heart ??

Mama got married she got a nice wife but what I got … Nothing … I came to home after two days with a broken heart . and got busy in board exams … I forgot her within 1 month (It was Childhood’s love so didn’t affect me).

After 2 years I went to Kalus’s home to visit his mother and all those things again knocked my mind.

I decided that now I ll go to Sanjana and will purpose her seriously because I m not a child anymore.

I told the same to Kalu but he just smiled at me. He took me to her home . I was very happy but was totally destroyed after what I saw there .

“She was In sari sitting near his husband”

Dangers of college Life ... [Alcohol - Know your Limits]

For many young adults, going to college is the first time they will leave home and be responsible for themselves. Inexperience and the desire for independence can be a dangerous combination for young men and women suddenly finding no authority figure to set boundaries. In an environment alive with potential, it is easy to fall victim to the dangers of the college lifestyle ....

Students coming to college just out of high school are not able to drink alcohol legally, but that does not stop the party. The college party culture encourages excessive drinking and for young adults who have little experience with alcohol, many go beyond their limit.

A new social scene and close contact with peers provides many opportunities for new friendships and love interests. Living conditions and the party culture encourage sexual interaction, but inexperience and alcohol again combine with tragic consequences. Young women and men often lack the confidence and self-awareness that comes with experience. Miscommunication and social pressure can lead to coercion and unwanted sexual contact. Alcohol dulls the senses and the ability to make decisions. Women often have not learned to speak up for themselves and have unhealthy perceptions of how dating should be. Pressure from trusted male friends, even when alcohol or violence is involved, often is not interpreted as rape. Young men are often taught that they have to be persistent to get sex, and cultures of sexual coercion and violence reinforce that. Using alcohol to “score” is an acceptable practice in some peer groups.

How much alcohol is too much? There's no simple answer to this question. If you're going to drink alcohol, you need to learn how to make this judgment call. You can try to figure out your blood alcohol content, but that's just part of the story. What does it mean to "reach your limit"?Here's some common sense tips to keep in mind the next time you're out drinking and are wondering if it's time to quit-- or, in some cases, if you have a problem with alcohol addiction and abuse.

First of all, there's a thin line between losing your inhibitions and losing control of yourself, and that's the line you don't want to cross. Losing your inhibitions may cause you to engage in silly, loud, or unusually bold behavior. You may look back on these things in the morning and cringe, but there probably won't be any dire consequences (unless you die from embarrassment). However, when someone loses control of their behavior, that's when they can put themselves in danger or become a danger to others.

Second, there's a point when the lousy effects of alcohol outweigh the fun effects. If you feel good after four drinks, this doesn't mean you'll feel good after eight drinks, when you're puking and hungover and feel like you've been run over by a rhinoceros. More is not better. The number of drinks you can handle comfortably is different for everyone, of course, but that number may be lower for you than you think.

Another important point to consider: are you drinking as a part of an evening of fun with your friends, or are you having fun with your friends as a part of an evening of drinking? If you drink, it should be a part of your fun activity, not the fun activity itself. If drinking becomes the primary source of your entertainment on a regular basis, you may be drinking too much.

Finally, if you're out drinking and you think you might be at your limit, you probably are! And if your friends think you are at your limit, they are probably right. Remember, it's highly unlikely that tomorrow morning, you're going to regret that you didn't drink enough. It's much more likely that you're going to regret getting wasted. So know when to stop.